Basic Training continued...

Well as you can see I've been doing more reading. :) Ms. Abernathy starts this chapter out asking the question, "What is obediance?". I really like how she discussed that obediance is more than just following rules. She went on to speak about the, "spirit of the law vs the letter of the law". I've seen many slaves/subs including myself be guilty of doing what they are told but not at all in the spirit it was intended. Loving care is not the same as I'm doing this but only cause your making me....lol.

The next topic covered was meditation. Now I use this in my spiritual practice and so this was nothing new to me. I've used meditation in so many ways throughout my adult life and I was happy to see it being offered here. She discusses it in the book as a way to become more aware of your inner thoughts, your surroundings and your body.

She also speaks briefly about physical states. Do you fidget ect...? Following this is a discussion about awareness of cues. What does sadness look like, or anger, or sleepiness?

The next portion of the book deals with journaling. I love to journal so I was happy to see this covered. She talks about how a slave should learn the discipline of writing in a slave journal everyday. The content doesn't matter so much as long as it is respectful. Along with this she covers voice training and forms of address.

Lastly she covers personal care and fitness. There is some brief discussion about how your appearance reflects on your Owner/Trainer. She talks about posture and things you can do to help you be more fit for the training process. From here she goes into voice commands and body positions.

I'm still really enjoying the reading. I find that most of this is info I know, but it is still a good reminder. I think this book could really be helpful to a new to the lifestyle slave or just someone who need some discipline in their life.

Erotic Slavehood
Christina Abernathy


kitten

More About "Erotic Slavehood"

I have moved on in my reading to the chapter called, "Training With Miss Abernathy, a workbook for erotic slaves and their owners." I really enjoyed this part of the book. She talks about the submissive/slave really considering their readiness to be involved with a Dominant/Owner. She encourages the reader to consider their likes and dislikes as well as their talents and shortcomings. Included in this is encouragement to study ways to achieve the things they desire in order to be a more well rounded person. There is also some discussion on contracts. I was cheering her on as she brought up how family, friends and community might respond to your lifestyle change. I often encounter subs/slaves who have the attitude that they really want to serve as long as it doesn't mess with their life to much ect.... In closing I'd like to include my favorite quote from this section: "No matter how technicaly correct the execution of a task may be, without the inner sense of earnest dedication a submissive brings to the work, the result is worthless."

Erotic Slavehood
by: Christina Abernathy


kitten

More Erotic Slavehood

Last night I finished up part two and I really enjoyed it. It has been refreshing for me to read a book about Master/slave relationships since so many of the books seem aimed at play and nothing more. The first two subjects she covers in this next chapter are: How to find a submissive, and what to look for in a submissive. The basic qualities she lists are as follows:

Sincere
Loyal
Discreet
Clean
Modest
Graceful
Intelligent
Respectful
Observant
and Ethical

I was very happy to see "Intelligent" on that list. Often I see Obedient and not intelligent. That being said I think obedience is very important. Next she covered the qualities of a Dominant. They are as follows:

Personal Integrity
A clear sense of needs and limitations
A clear communicator
Good personal boundaries
Inquisitive
Creative
Versatile
Decisive
Intimate knowledge of the task that She/He sets forth for the submissive.

That last one is really important in my mind. There have been MANY times as a submissive when I have been asked to do something and then had it really not work out the way the Dominant intended it to. Often I feel this is because they really did not think it through. How hard is this task, does she have enough time to complete it, is she physically able?

The rest of Part 2 was dedicated to Commitment resources, Styles of dominance, Foundations of submissive ethics, Support for submissives, Taxonomy of slavehood, Types of D/s arrangements, D/s relationships, Contracts, Ending an association and the importance of prenuptials.

She really covers alot of ground in this second part. I can tell that she actually knows the lifestyle because she has lived it. So often when reading online I see people writing and it is so unrealistic. You get a sense that the only D/s lifestyle they have experience has all occurred at the keyboard. I cannot wait to see what is coming next!

The book is:
Erotic Slavehood
Author: Christina Abernathy

kitten

A new book review.

I'm going to be reviewing a new book in segments, as I read it. I'm currently reading "Erotic Slavehood" by Christina Abernathy. I really enjoyed the Forward by Laura Antoniou. I have read her bdsm novels and really enjoyed them. What I liked about her Forward was how she admitted that all those wonderful bdsm novels are just that novels. It would be damn near impossible to actually live many of these fantasies.

In her introduction she talks about "What is bdsm?", "What bdsm is not", and "How D/s is different?". I really like her candidness as well as her practicality.

In part 1 (chapter 1) she covers "The Training Program". I really thought the info about interviewing a submissive was really well written. It highlighted the importance of knowing your submissive beyond just her/his erotic likes and dislike, limits ect...She speaks to knowing medical limitations as well as what medications the submissive is currently using. She also includes having a list of emergency contacts and knowing what info is safe to divulge to these contacts. And finally limitations of play that includes past abuse and incest history.

The ideas that kept coming up in my mind as I read through this part of the book are as follows: A Master/Mistress really needs to be consistant. It is important to the slave/submissive to know what expectations are in order to fulfill them. It is also a sign of committment in the eyes of the submissive if the Master/Mistress/Dom is being consistant. If the submissive slips up and the Dominant does not notice it can really be crushing to the submissive. I hav experienced this myself and know the pain it can cause. On the other hand, noticing the well done work of a submissive is also important. Praise and rewards show that the Dom is please which fills the submissives heart with joy and a sense of security.

Part 1 had much more content then I can communicate in one post. I can say that so far I'm really enjoying the book and I'm looking forward to reading the next installment.

kitten

What's going on??

We have had a busy summer. We have had some nice meetings with interesting conversation as well as a fun picnic. At our last meeting Kimaya presented on the Gorean lifestyle. It was really interesting and I thought it stimulated some great exchanges of ideas. For our next meeting Dagda is going to present info on the "old guard". I'm looking forward to hearing more about that. We do not have a date chosen for our next meeting, but I'm sure one will be selected soon.

Happy fall,
kitten